MY SUPERMAN FRIEND

I've got a special special friend...

Hehe...It is not Ah Lian that I were referring to...

It is David, David Chan...He is the special friend I were referring, He has special needs, He came to me for the week for a visit...


Adrian and I were very happy about him visiting us, we went out for a dinner together...


David though he has so many difficulty in his life, he stayed strong, sometimes he hears voices in his head, sometimes he has difficulty moving around and most of the times he has difficulty finding people caring for him...But one thing he has for sure is that he has Christ in his life, supporting him, carrying him and encouraging him to make his days worth while...constantly David reminds me of the importance of faith, the strength within we need to have to deal with life...A real life superman friend...

THE EARLY BIRDS

A casually dressed, sweet little smiling girl enjoying KFC with her family and friends; An old man on a bicycle with his grandson with a bucket of KFC to go home with are some of the Advertisment I can remember from KFC...they are good ones....

And so Chub and gang also decided to have one themselves on the first day of Chinese New Year Morning...at...3 am...hehe...




Here's the main actor...The Colonel and his chickens...


And here's the extras...Gaeh Joek (nosy bird) and Gai Jing (chicken essence)...


Wah...He's different la...So?...No big news lar...


And there's...Kam Kam, Feilong (Fat dragon) and Chun Seng (Stupid Saint)...

All of these adds up to a very beautiful day as old old good friends group back together to have a good time...a perfect day...完美的一天...

YEAH I'VE GOT THE LOAN

Yup, Chubby have got the loan...a very big loan...the loan of friendship from work place...Here's the beautiful Pearly and me...


Then there was Tee and Tan my new found friends...Happy we were to have had the "Rudie rude rude fried rice" it was something unique from Petaling street...


Mr. Tee and I...Silly Smiling as we were, chubby still owes Mr. Tee RM2 for the poor lady chubby wanted to help...ehh...I'm sure he wouldn't mine I owe him a few more months...haha...ehh...lets continue to laught...hehe...

I am really thankful of the friendship that brought us together, especially in this beautiful time of the season, as a testimony of beautiful people around us...

HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR TO ALL...

AN ALIEN HAS BEEN COMING TO OUR CHURCH

Lately, strangely, there's been an alien, an alien coming to church...People see him different, people are afriad of him, avoid him...He thinks he comes to church with a invisible force sheild, which pushes people a few feet away when he approches, that is why he is able to come in and out of church with a void surrounding him...

Basically he's just trying to seek salvation, trying his best to cope with the changes and the differences of life living in a new and different world...One word of warmth and concern and we could easily see this chubby alien break down and cry...

Here's why...

After Divorce: Help for Latter-day Saint Men
By A. Dean Byrd

Men face challenges after divorce that are not often discussed, but there is much they can do to find healing.

A. Dean Byrd, “After Divorce: Help for Latter-day Saint Men,” Ensign, Aug. 2003, 58
“I was dying emotionally, and everything that mattered to me had been changed in a way I had no ability to control,” said one Latter-day Saint man after his divorce. “I felt helpless and lost. Ordinarily stable and unemotional, I found myself waking up at four o’clock in the morning and physically shaking. I closed my door at the office and cried uncontrollably for half an hour at a time.” 1

In my work as a professional therapist, I have found that the above description of a Latter-day Saint man’s journey after divorce is all too typical. Yet few would know it. Often men keep such feelings inside and suffer in silence. They experience confusion about marriage, they grieve over lost and altered relationships, and some even wonder if the Lord cares for them. Their suffering is real.

The challenges divorced men face in the aftermath of divorce are not often discussed. Yet there is much they can do to respond to their challenges within a gospel framework, making healing possible.

The Need for Support

Many divorced men report experiencing a deep sense of personal failure and feel they have lost everything important to them. This sense of loss is frequently manifested by anxiety, depression, and guilt. Men in general are expected to bear their struggles in private, partly because society views outward emotional expression by men as being incompatible with masculinity. As a result, men are less likely to ask for or receive emotional support. Frequently others automatically assume the men are responsible for the divorce, particularly if they do not have custody of their children. This often increases divorced men’s feelings of failure and alienation from others.

Though the gospel offers many wonderful resources, some Church settings may seem awkward both for the brother who is divorced and for other members of the ward. One man described the following situation:

“I will never forget the ward social a week or so after we made the decision to separate. We went together—one of the last times we tried that experiment—but separated at the door, and for the rest of the evening, she was surrounded by sympathetic, nurturing sisters. And I was alone. A few of the brothers spoke to me about sporting events or news of the day. …

“Although that evening is the most poignant in my memory, it simply encapsulates for me the total experience of the next two months.” 2

While social support may be difficult to find, such support is an important part of the healing process. Frequently others do want to help; they just don’t know how. Often the fear of being intrusive prevents them from reaching out.

More:

"After Divorce: Help for Latter-day Saint Men"
Men face challenges after divorce that are not often discussed, but there is much they can do to find healing.

Articles on Divorce by LDS Family Services
Church site on helping people with relationship trials.

SO MUCH LOVE, SO LITTLE SPOKEN...

Mother is a very hard working person, she always takes responsibility on her own to take care of us, I seldom thank her and I seldom thank her enough of what she has done for us and for me...

Here I speak of mother, her closest sister and her first child...that is me, chubby...

Mother came from a small town, she was very very poor as I can recall, I remember the scenes of collected wood and chopped up furniture for fire to cook, and I can remember the scent and the smell of burning wood of fire cooking in the old kitchen, I like to play with the blow pipe which was used to blow the fire in the stove. Life was not easy for her and her family...

In 1975, Mother got married at 17, she had a chubby little boy in 76, it was the very first child of the family, she and her family cherished, took care of this chub well, grew fat and strong...It wasn't easy for mother at that time of my birth, father was weak to speak in the family, and mother was made servant to serve all 6 proud sisters and a fierce grandmother of mine at that time in her new family, poor and living under the roof of grandmother's house, she was made to bare hard work and humiliation most of the time, at times where she's not around her baby chub, baby would be beaten, until images still haunts this chub today...

Though difficult, mother patiently stayed on with the marriage, soon the sisters all had their own family and grandmother passed away...It was a very rough journey the whole time for her, but she stayed strong, she had her sisters to encourage her and support her, among the the siblings her older sister (Dai Yee) was the closest to her, I ofter seen mother visiting each other and talking on the phone to each other, Dai Yee would be the first mother seek help and comfort from, for all this time, this Sister of my mother had been a very good one, she was always loud and cheerful, comforting and helpful...I thank her for being a very good sister and friend for mother and the family...

On 26th January, 2007 Friday afternoon 2.30pm, Dai Yee left peacefully at the age 52...it was a sudden cause of lung infection and caused them to filled with liquid, nobody expected it...mother was sad, very very sad...For I only wish something could be done...